01 Mar

I used to think that attachment parenting was…let’s just say, weird! There are people who sleep with their children in bed with them??? And, what’s the deal with homebirth? I first heard about it when my cousin and his wife had a homebirth. I thought they were crazy! I also used to laugh and make fun of people who read labels all the time! Boy, was I in for a rude awakening!

I thought I’d take some time to confess all of my new beliefs (new, as in the last few years), just so you know where I’m coming from. I am not condemning anyone who doesn’t agree with me, just sharing my convictions with you. Some of these have links to blogs where I wrote about them.

  • I do not take any kind of medication, only natural supplements and herbs. We threw out all medication, including Tylenol and Excedrin. Haven’t had medication in close to two years, and I love it! Our “medicine cabinet” is full of supplements of all kinds!
  • I believe that breastfeeding is the way God intended we feed our children until they are able to eat what we eat. My child has never had a drop of formula, and I wouldn’t want it any other way! I also believe in child-led weaning when they are ready. We have not reached this point yet, so we’ll see if I keep this point of view! Depends on how long he continues. He is almost 21 months old and nursing a few times a day, and sometimes a couple of times at night.
  • I believe the best sleeping arrangement for babies and young children is with their parents – at the very least in the same room. We did not co-sleep with our son (only the first 3 months in the basinet), but we both read this book and are strongly considering it with our next child! (Please note that the book does not advise bed-sharing in some circumstances, but anyone can co-sleep – meaning in the same room)
  • We do not vaccinate our child, and won’t any of our children. We did our research and are convinced that this is what God wants. God created our immune system to fight off diseases and sickness. Each one it comes in contact with strengthens it. You just have to make sure you feed them a nutritious diet and support their immune system with vitamins, echinacea, and minimizing their sugar intake (sugar suppresses your immune system…as do vaccines, actually).
  • We don’t see an MD and my child doesn’t see a pediatrician. We only see a chiropractor who practices kinesiology and natural medicine. My first three posts tell the story of how we found him. We are so happy and he has helped us with so much more than any MD ever did!
  • We do not own a microwave.
  • I don’t own any conventional cleaners, and mostly clean with vinegar and baking soda – they’re much safer, without the toxic chemicals.
  • We use cloth diapers – for the money savings and the environmental benefits. Plus, it’s healthier for my baby.
  • I believe I will strive for homebirth from now on! This is huge for someone who, with my first pregnancy said, “I want my epi!” Research will really change your mind. Read the book, Ina Mays Guide to Childbirth and you never want to give birth in a hospital again! So risky! And people say homebirth is risky? Not to mention it’s totally natural and how it was done for years and years before people started giving birth in hospitals. I’m starting to think that is weird (unless, of course some emergency happens to arise)!
  • I do not believe I will circumcise again if God blesses me with any more boys. Once again, wish I had researched better before deciding to put my son through that!
  • We eat organic when possible (especially the “dirty dozen“), free range eggs, [strive to eat] grass-fed beef, no hormone or antibiotic meet, etc.
  • Will not buy processed meet with nitrates or nitrites in it.
  • Try to stick with Stevia, honey, and pure maple syrup for sweetener, if any at all.
  • I do not buy products with high fructose corn syrup in them.
  • I strive to not buy any GMO product (genetically modified – but much of our corn, soy, wheat, and other ingredients are GMO anymore).
  • I do not believe in “cry it out” for babies! Research shows it is not healthy for babies, and that it affects their trust later in life. I didn’t say that – research and statistics did! I go to my baby when he cries. There is really no reason for a baby to cry unless they are tired or hungry or hurting. I tried CIO a few times and now feel guilty, but we live and learn. I will listen to my mothering instincts from now on.
  • I do not believe God wants us to use birth control, so we don’t…anymore. We are striving to trust God with EVERY area of our lives, and control nothing ourselves! Such a freeing way to live! 🙂
  • *** My child will not drink cow’s milk when he is weaned…I don’t see the point. Cow’s milk is for baby cows like human milk is for human babies. Our doc is very supportive and says people don’t need milk like we are told we do. Dairy actually causes congestion and many are allergic or have an intolerance to it. Worried about calcium intake? There are many foods that are great sources of calcium such as broccoli and other leafy greens. I used to drink it, but don’t anymore. Most of it isn’t even safe anymore, anyway with all the hormones and antibiotics the cows are given. Plus, the pasteurization and homogenization it goes through these days make it even less healthy. Research it! (see update at the end of post)
  • I hope to homeschool. I believe in many cases this is the best situation of learning for them.
  • I don’t use shampoo. I learned that most shampoos have toxic ingredients, unless you pay the big bucks for natural/organic brands. Baking soda and apple cider vinegar are all we use anymore, and we use liquid castile soap on our toddler! I also don’t use any very many commercial personal care products. Baking soda and vinegar for hair, liquid castile soap for my body, Trader Joe’s brand toothpaste (or make my own), Tom’s deodorant (or make my own), coconut oil for “lotion”, and on rare occasions some tinted moisturizer (this is my only product that isn’t “safe”, which is why I hardly ever use it!).
  • We live for God, and God alone and pray for guidance from Him every day! We live by His standard with the help of the Holy Spirit and strive to do anything and everything He asks us. We sacrifice our money to give to the poor and other worthy causes because we feel that’s what God wants us to do! It’s not whether you go to church and dress a certain way that matters – it’s whether you have a relationship with Christ. I believe anyone who doesn’t have that relationship is not only missing out on the best life possible, but will also miss out on Heaven and will be absent from God’s presence for eternity. (This, by the way is not new in the last few years – I have always believed this.)

I realize that we aren’t “normal” by our society’s standards. That’s okay. We don’t really strive to be normal. We strive to live in a way we feel God wants us to live in every area of our lives! So, if you’re still with me after reading this…if you’re still willing to follow my journey, I’ll see ya at my next post! 🙂


***Update: After more research and learning, we have somewhat altered our belief on cow’s milk. Pasteurized cow milk, like you see in the stores, is NOT healthy and our bodies do not know how to digest it and we will not drink it. HOWEVER, raw cow milk (or even goat milk) is very healthy and FULL of nourishment! We love the taste of it, and are glad to have real milk back in our lives! This graphic was very eye-opening!


4 responses to “Confessions

  1. Jessica@FruitandVeggieTales

    March 3, 2011 at 10:36 am

    I thoroughly enjoyed this post! 🙂 If ever you have some time (I know, haha right?) there are tons more birthing books you should read! You would enjoy them and I promise you won’t want an epidural!! lol

    • Jen

      March 3, 2011 at 11:04 am

      Thanks! I actually added one comment at the bottom. The very last item on the list is not new in the last few years like all the others are! Haha! It could’ve been read that way. Anyway, it’s just crazy to me to look over this at all the changes we’ve made! I may read more books on the subject, but not sure I need to! The one I read was very eye-opening! I’m in the middle of some Christian living books right now. I’m sure when I’m preggo I’ll be in the mood to read birth books again. 🙂

  2. The Right Way

    March 23, 2011 at 9:04 pm

    Wow!! Wow!! Really? I disagree with so many of your points above I don’t know where to start!!!


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